5 WORDS/PHRASES TO AVOID IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Someone said, "Words are not hurtful, unless they come from those who mean a lot to you."
Invariably, it implies that within the bounds of a relationship, the words uttered have
immense effect on the person that received them, for good or for bad.
It is incredible that what people always hold close to their hearts are those things that
made them feel somehow.
Any other word of less impact isn't remembered.
Relationships have become broken in strange and unpleasant manners over words spoken,
albeit innocuously.
Ironically, those words were not in complex sentences or in flamboyant vocabularies.
In this video, we'll be sharing with you, 5 words or phrases to avoid in a relationship.If
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1.
"Shut up!"
That's right.
Shut up: the phrase that is common in most unhealthy arguments.
Not knowing when talks have become very much heated, and the need to apply some levels
of restraint, it is easy to drop the bombshell that literally means "keep quiet" but
is translated as "your words are irritable and mean nothing".
Rather than saying shut up, it is reasonable to use lighter sentences like, "Can you
hear me out?"
"Can you please, keep quiet?"
After such requests have being made, give him or her time to react by staying quiet
yourself.
Fights are part of a relationship; shut up should not complicate issues.
2.
I don't care Well, whether you mean it or not, saying "I
don't care" to your significant other is not only annoying; it is also calamitous.
Even when you don't feel like being supportive, do not voice out such, especially when your
partner's nerves are frayed already.
I don't care means a lot of things, chief being you owe your partner no respect for
their feelings.
Others are: • They are on their own.
• Whatever they do is not your problem.
• They are good without you.
• They should not involve you further in that pressing issue.
• You have nothing you wish to contribute to them.
• You have abandoned them to their fate.
By and large, promising someone your commitment in a relationship does not entertain any form
of rejection from you.
I don't care is the condensed form of rejection.
And resentment.
3.
I want a break up Making a pervasive habit of saying you would
break up with your partner anytime you have issues between the both of you, may eventually
see you heading in different directions.
At first, it is terrifying to your partner especially at the thought of living without
you.
But with time, they will make up their minds to go on with their lives when you make good
your threat.
Many at times, the plan to shake a partner up a bit results in irreparable damages.
Some people have taken the threat too far, and left without any chance of an explanation
from the giver.
If you do not mean to break up, don't bring it up.
Let it be where it has been lying, far away from your relationship.
Unless you mean it.
4.
Do whatever Anyway, we hope you will be pleased with the
outcome.
Saying the above clearly shows another form of abandonment of your partner.
They could have asked for your contribution or suggestion concerning something dear to
them.
Instead of actively being involved, and letting them know what you think of it, you dismiss
them by saying, "Do whatever."
The very sensitive ones could hurt for days unending, and may not carry on with their
plans.
For those who are stronger, it is their time to go solo with the plans and the outcomes.
Already, you must have lost a companion and a loyal friend in them.
5.
You are stupid!
The freedom you share with a significant other is not a leeway to belittle them.
When annoyed by your partner, it lies on you to be careful with that which you say to them,
regardless of the size of the annoyance.
"You are stupid!"
"You are pathetic!"
"You are useless!"
"You are wicked!" have trailed many relationship breakups.
What is most painful is the feeling that words spoken are reflections of what the mind/heart
bears.
The impression you are giving your partner, so to say, is that they are not worth anything
to you, and are hated by the one who claimed to love them.
At that moment when anger must have ebbed away, reality of the damage done in less than
ten minutes will keep being real after the relationship must have ended.
If you did not mean to say it, or you did mean to say it, there has never being a time
words said during heated arguments ever solved problems.
No matter how pressing an issue is, there is nothing as important as keeping your relationship
stronger and better.
A good percentage of homes and unions have become history as a result of words said to
one another in times when emotions were left unguarded.
Mentally screening words that jump into your thoughts, pausing before speaking, listening
thoroughly to understand where a talk is headed toward, biting your tongue when bad words
are threatening to be pushed out, or simply walking away when an atmosphere is becoming
argumentative, will save you the stresses of apologising endlessly, while leaving your
partner with a broken spirit.
Indeed, words are arts in marbles.
They provoke feelings that are inexplicable, yet, long-lasting.
Words have put people to war, and have ended wars.
Avoid saying shut up, I don't care, I want a break up, Do whatever, and You are stupid!
in your relationship.
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