HOW TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
If the success of a marriage were to be only based on love, many divorces would never have
happened.
Unfortunately, a lot of people who nurture thoughts of making and sharing their homes
with the persons they love intimately, have not understood that there is more to marriage
than what meets the ordinary eyes.
To enjoy marriage, one does not stick to how one felt, or search for the flickers of excitement
that were part of the honeymoon ride.
Marriage is enjoyed when it is continuously worked on, irrespective of feelings or butterflies.
Success in marriage isn't a journey; it is a destination.
The journey to a successful marriage is not smooth; in fact, it is one of the most underrated
walks ever, partly as a result of the simplicity of falling head over heels in love.
In this video, we'll be sharing with you, 7 tips to have a successful marriage.
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1.
Always stay reminded of your partner's specialness As the saying goes, "Familiarity breeds
contempt."
It is very easy to take a person for granted, one who you might have seen his/her nakedness
for countless times, or smelled his/her waking up smell for as much as you could remember.
While we may get used to other family members who have other interests and their own partners,
it is in the best interest of your marriage to consciously let yourself be in the know
of whom your husband or wife is to you: the special one.
Someone special is different, unique, and treated as such.
Yelling at your spouse as you would when you get angry with your annoying brother, is downright
demeaning; likewise, not caring about his or her reaction toward an action of yours.
When you sense that you are slipping into the rut of familiarity, quickly remind yourself
of the angel your spouse was before marriage.
Be reminded of how you worshipped the ground he/she walked upon.
Remember he or she is an extension of yourself in commitment, and how specially you want
to be treated also goes to how he/she should be treated.
2.
Appreciate your partner's efforts The mowed lawn.
The birthday party organised for your daughter.
The anniversary cufflinks she bought for you.
Staying awake to cuddle the baby to sleep while you slept.
The words of encouragement.
Appreciation are motivations for more efforts.
A marriage relationship sometimes becomes casual that even the little efforts toward
each other, wouldn't count.
Everybody is busy living and leaving, without taking some time out to reflect on how much
his or her partner means to them.
An unappreciative environment makes nothing fun and exciting to be looked forward to.
Showing gratitude for your husband's commitment to pay the bills is a form of appreciation.
Regarding valuable, the effort of your wife in keeping the house sparkly, in the midst
of her responsibility of tending to hyperactive children, will lift her shoulders high.
Appreciation can be expressed in words and in deeds.
Explore appreciation.
3.
Take care of yourself, darling Your health and physical appearance influence
your marriage relationship.
Getting married has never been a guarantee to neglect your wellbeing.
It is within the confines of marriage that you freely enjoy health, stay fit, and look
your best.
Not only does your spouse have less work to do when you are healthy; the happiness that
flows when you are by their side, bubbling and full of life, always will make your relationship
healthier.
Bathing regularly, smelling good, maintaining a clean environment, exercising as and when
due, healthy eating, resting and relaxing adequately, and dressing to your taste and
by extension, to thrill your partner are rudiments of taking good care of yourself.
If you don't do it, who will?
4.
Recognise that marriage isn't a ground for unhealthy competitions
Granted that your partner should motivate you to put in more effort in the home, and
that it is their obligation to be a part of the successful running of the marriage relationship;
do not push it too far.
Expectations have more often than not; become the undoing of otherwise blissful homes.
Habitually expecting your spouse to do the same thing you did may set you up to fail
in love.
When activities are seen as competitions, where who did what and who didn't have become
the order of the day, resentment and bearing of grudges won't be impossible.
Let anything you do be out of love, and in the best interest of your home.
Keeping scores of how frequent what you do outweighs your partner's inconsistencies in
that area, as a way of tracking theirinsensitivity, is pretty childish.
It may make your marriage difficult.
If not now, maybe later.
5.
Practice openness Be naked to your spouse.
Physically.
Financially.
Emotionally.
Spiritually.
Decision-wise.
In all ramifications.
For a good number of couples, openness only ends in bed and possibly, in the bathroom.
Those are just little of the whole.
When it comes to making important decisions that may affect your spouse now or later,
being open demands practising inclusive decision-making, where you make known your plans and the processes
they will undergo.
When you don't feel good about your partner's attitude toward you or your child, openness
demands that you let them know, before the sore in your heart festers.
Openness ensures that your thoughts and actions are laid bare to your significant other, without
fear.
It may take some time, but a marriage built on mutual openness is disaster-proof and enjoyable.
6.
Be careful with what you say Words are arts on marble.
They are quite impactful and the memories they create, long-lasting.
What you say to your partner in unguarded moments of anger or carefreeness, goes a long
way to determining how successful your relationship will be.
Constantly undermining or degrading your spouse anytime you flip over to the side of careless
rattling of words, may mould a resentful spouse for you.
You may end up living with a person whose loyalty is far away from you.
When angry, address the problem, and not the person.
Be quick to recognise your loopholes in presenting a case, and refrain from repeating them.
When in a light mood, do not joke with a sensitive secret that your partner shared with you.
Watch what you say, watch how it is received.
Even when it is nothing, when they always say it is something, then it is something.
Be careful with what you say.
7.
Make intimacy a priority After all is said and done, it is just the
two of you.
When the fiery passion has died off, the embers of intimacy need to be fanned to ignite passion.
Sex is not the only form of intimacy, but it is just as important.
It is not designed for the bedroom of your house alone; going on vacations to try out
intercourse in other environments, increases intimacy.
Talking and sharing with your spouse builds intimacy.
Holding hands, sleeping together, partying together, solving needs together all help
to make you more bonded to your partner.
In summary, a successful marriage is possible.
All it takes is commitment to make it work.
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