When someone says something wrong and he doesn't understand after being advised it makes me angry
this matter happens with brothers and sisters and among other people as well
I try to control it but it is outside my control
After becoming normal I get very remorseful and after such an event if I face a difficulty then I feel it is because of the wrong I had done
I want to get rid of this condition
kindly guide me
This here is not just your own problem
in a society like ours many people face this problem
viz anger is basically a human state of weakness
when
a man feels that within himself he holds less power over the feeling of control he becomes angry
this anger is envisaged and understood
that anger is a big blessing
meaning at a time
when someone should in actuality feel angry and he does not then it will be a thing of great grief
for instance sometimes for schooling
sometimes for correction
man knowingly
gets angry
when man gets angry after pondering it through
that anger never creates these kind of affects on him
it is known
that what needs to be said
for how long
and how it will be said
and with that its just like you decide whether you'll say something gently or decide you'll say it rudely
so anger decided
and kindness decided
both are huge blessings of Allah (swt)
and both should be asked for in prayer from Allah (swt) that they remain acquired
the anger you are talking about
this is a huge nuisance
and from this man should get rid of as soon as possible
for that I will tell you a remedy
if possible then adopt it
one of the things is that
when you lie down at night, decide what are those instances when you get angry
you'll see that there will be few occasions
like he has mentioned a single instance as well
there will be a few occasions
they are not a lot
those instances you avoid for a little while
meaning because of that instance
you need to postpone advising or explaining or something similar to it then do so
because your advice you should follow yourself first because of your anger
how will it reach another
so detemine occasions
avoid those occasions altogether for a little while
this is one thing
the second thing is that when you
become angry
like he mentioned
then try to control and change the state you are in at that moment
which has been explained in an example
in a tradition
that if you are standing then sit down
if sitting then lie down
meaning change your state
this changing of a state becomes the way of control
the third thing is that when you are wrongfully angry
and this way anger only comes wrongfully it is never right
when you get angry this way then obviously it will be at a person , wife , kids etc.
so I'm about to say a difficult thing but try and do it sometime
hopefully if you repeat this third thing even ten times
in your life
the eleventh time you won't get angry
and that is clasp your hands by standing in front of them and ask for unconditional forgiveness
this is not a joke
if your goal is to improve yourself then do so
you will be astonished
that after that
ten times I've set as the last limit
just after two or four tries
the biggest thing Allah (swt) has put inside of a human is his self respect
so when knows the price he has to pay
he becomes okay
so there are these three things
adopt them and see
even then if you don't recover then go to another doctor
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